tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post788659950888357090..comments2023-09-10T00:13:40.861+03:00Comments on everyone needs a little Grace in their lives: When a Kiss Is More Than Just a KissAmy Medinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02445986974714298954noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-29321538928954175112011-10-16T16:29:55.722+03:002011-10-16T16:29:55.722+03:00Jen--great to hear your thoughts!
I actually thi...Jen--great to hear your thoughts! <br />I actually think it is more common than not to feel weird at first, and I really wish that someone had told me that, because it would have taken off so much tension! But now that I am "experienced" with adoption and talked to lots of people--it's definitely common for the bonding to take time. And I am determined for people to know that! I think that sometimes that's what puts people off from adoption--they think, "There's no way I could bond with a child who is not my flesh and blood" and it scares them! If adoptive parents were more transparent about how it really feels, I think that would help. <br />It's complicated too, because when I told people, "Yes, I'm SO in love!" It was true....it just was much more mental than it was emotional. It's also hard because there is SUCH a huge build-up to bringing a child home, that parents then feel bad/confused/weird that things don't actually feel as good as they thought they would. <br />Praying for you as you begin your journey....it's always worth it!Amy Medinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02445986974714298954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-86976824016102015622011-10-16T06:23:28.298+03:002011-10-16T06:23:28.298+03:00Your post made me smile.
Precious.
And, yes, it is...Your post made me smile.<br />Precious.<br />And, yes, it is so freeing to know that it takes awhile to bond sometimes.<br />80)<br />mbda hallshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00012938581102837437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-81805831821019575552011-10-16T06:20:34.816+03:002011-10-16T06:20:34.816+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.da hallshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00012938581102837437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-87477844496672374562011-10-15T20:00:16.565+03:002011-10-15T20:00:16.565+03:00I loved this post Amy. I've often wondered wha...I loved this post Amy. I've often wondered what emotions would be attached to us doing foster care and as we've discussed adoption the same questions come up about how it will "feel" once they are a part of our family. This is a great topic that I rarely hear discussed. I only know adoptive parents who are googoo and seem to have no issues with attachment. Then I feel bad about myself and wonder if I'm not cut out for it since I worry that I'll have strange feelings at first. It was so good to read your post and realize that it's totally normal and totally okay to not feel an instant bond...that it takes time for the heart to grow fonder and that's okay. Such a good post! <br />Thank you!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844797843854374945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-6505075871241980202011-10-15T14:51:12.583+03:002011-10-15T14:51:12.583+03:00Nice to meet you, Missy! So happy for you and you...Nice to meet you, Missy! So happy for you and your coming beauties from Ethiopia. I loved the pictures on your blog of you seeing their pictures for the first time. :-)Amy Medinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02445986974714298954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-79193048507877040392011-10-15T03:13:14.056+03:002011-10-15T03:13:14.056+03:00This is beautiful.
My biological daughter, Lilly...This is beautiful. <br />My biological daughter, Lilly, kisses everyone she meets on the face and asks them to "come over my house tomorrow?" As I read about "attachment" in preparation for my two new babies from Ethiopia, I worry, but then I realize that my firstborn daughter has more symptoms of this disorder than I would like to admit, and she KNOWS who her Mama is! I have to trust that God will weave our new babies into our hearts and us into theirs. This is very encouraging! Thank you!<br />Missy<br />www.roepnack.blogspot.commissy roepnackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262510556811559404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118517190489901866.post-60747942044198158522011-10-14T15:50:55.663+03:002011-10-14T15:50:55.663+03:00I wonder how much of our expectations regarding at...I wonder how much of our expectations regarding attachment are media driven. Love is first and foremost a choice to self sacrifice whether there is a biological tie or not. That tie might make the choice somewhat easier, but there's still plenty of growing into the relationship that has to happen even with genes in common and a foundation that starts in the womb. I'm so glad you aren't plagued by anxiety about that topic this time around, and congratulations on Lily's latest step toward wholeness.jibberishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16257465540183457986noreply@blogger.com